History

So a few weeks back, I had the chance of seeing Purple Violets, a witty romantic film which interested me not only because of the cast (Selma Blair, Patrick Wilson, Edward Burns) and the literate-connected theme (which was more used as a push-block) but for a historical genealogy of sentiments.

Now I know some of you may disagree with this rather pragmatic approach and argue that love is a spur of the moment, spontaneity act and you would not be mistaken. However, love is also something you can best comment empirically, i.e. after it is over, an empirical argument which you cannot displace for another experience's convenience. Hence, feelings cannot be rationalized but they can be valued upon an occurrence.

Getting to my point, after much pondering, I came to the idea that feelings are stronger and the relationship is more stable (by which I mean, anything you may understand through 'stable', be it hack'n'slash lunches and violent evenings on the kitchen table) when the partners know each other longer. Basically, a relationship has more chances of success the longer the two lovers have experienced life as a couple or as emotionally-distinct individuals, for it is experience which binds their feelings and during rough times, it is that which they have lived through a constant reference for stability and happiness. And it will be harder to really know a person as time goes by, since there will be less of each other's lives you have seen, got to know, experienced, got to love, and there will be no reference to a past that would alleviate pain; rather, it would only heighten the emotional disequilibrium.

So my point is, give history a chance.

Oh, and my rating for the movie is 7/10